mom life · phD

Day in the life of a PhD mom

This is how my typical day looked like when I was at a writing stage of my PhD dissertation.

My daughters were 4 years old and 1 year old. 

6:30 am                       Wake up (if none of them woke me up yet), make lunch

7:30 am                        Feed the girls, change, start the laundry 


8:30 am                          Violin practice for my older daughter (while the younger one wants to join)

9:00 am                          Drop them off at daycare
9:30 am                          Start writing at a nearby cafe


12:30 pm                         Going home for lunch

1 pm ~ 2:30 pm             Line dry laundry, tidy up home, house chores, errands

2:30 pm ~ 4:00 pm         Get back to writing dissertation 


4:30 pm                           Picking up the girls

5:00 pm                           Cook dinner (with the kids as long as my sanity lasts) 


6:00 pm                         Eat, clean up


7:00 pm ~ 8:30 pm      Playtime followed by bath time 


8:30pm  ~ 9:00 pm      Reading books and going to bed 

10:00 pm ~ 12 pm        Whatever I need to do….and crowl to bed

ZZZZZZ…… nightmares about my dissertation 

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I was too exhausted to work at night, my only productive time was when the girls were away. 

Even during those hours, I couldn’t use my time entirely on my work…a lot was spent on house chores and errands.

It’s all about your priority, I guess. I just couldn’t let my home get cluttered with stuff…and I just need to eat food that is homemade and yummy.  And I wanted to spend time for my daughters to go to her violin lessons and practice. 

Afterall, I just couldn’t prioritize my work over these things. And we can only do so much everyday.

It was possible to finish my dissertation even with this much work, and successfully defend it. But the problem was, I didn’t get to do the extra work to get a job after I get my PhD…that is to build up my resume by teaching, publishing, presenting, etc. 

I wonder what I could have done differently, and if I should have done differently. 

I thought my journey was over, but seems that I’m still trying to figure out how to make sense of my journey. 

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